I have chosen 26 tips for married life as my theme for the
A-Z challenge 2016. Today’s word is Trust
Today’s word for T is Trust a quality that is very essential for a married life; they say Trust is greater than Love. How true for it is trust that takes us forward to believe, to have confidence and hope – which allows us to stand by each other, not only in good times but also in times of sickness, losses, failures and any sort of misfortune that can come upon one person.
One of the serious problems in a married life is to break the trust. Trust is both vulnerable and powerful; we cannot make any one trust you, each one of us decides whether we will trust or not. Trust is built over a period of time; some times it takes years to build trust and only a second to break it.
Trust is mutual and is displayed in the way we care for each other; in the manner in which we stand by our commitments; human as we are there is every possibility of making so many mistakes of forgetting our spouse’s request and at other times we so commonly hear husband’s forgetting birthday dates, anniversary dates etc… its in these small little things we show our love and care to communicate that family is a priority and cannot be taken for granted.
For me it was not the dates (David does not forget easily, in fact he remembers everything in detail and loves to celebrate). The one challenge I faced in my own marriage was taking financial responsibility to live within one’s means, avoiding unnecessary debt, managing necessary debt and working together to decide the family’s financial issues.
I found it very difficult to trust David with finances mainly because in an extended family there were other members who could influence and decide… thank God now that everyone has moved and living their lives.
It has also brought some discipline and transparency and accountability in dealing with financial management. Of course it did take a lot of time and effort to believe that I am not betrayed of my trust and I am safe and secure in this relationship. This is seen in countless gestures, large and small that emerges in the way, we treat each other conveying respect, kindness and gentleness. A few quotes for inspiration:
“Trust your instincts. Be true to yourself” Catherine Pulsifer.
“People who choose to trust tend to be happier, better liked by others, and more ethical than less trusting people” Joy Cagil
“Trust is involved in all the basic elements of a healthy relationship: namely love (respect and consideration for another person), communication, commitment and honesty” Harold Duarte Bernhardt.
“Trust in a relationship is very crucial. Without trust, a relationship cannot last as a healthy and happy bond.” Alana Johnson
“One of the most valuable things you can do to create higher levels of trust is to trust others ore. Don’t wait for them to prove themselves to you. Trust them.”
Be Blessed & Be Happy !