April 4, 2016

D-Dedicate yourself to pursue your individual goals


I have chosen 26 tips for married life as my theme for the
A-Z challenge 2016.
 Today’s word is
Dedicate yourself to pursue your individual goal.

One of the healthy ways to build strong and authentic relationship is to encourage one another to pursue individual goals. I state this is very important even for overall health; and help us stay relevant, and busy in lifelong learning process. When I married David I just had one post graduation and was working in the service sector, as I continued I felt another PG in the area of understanding society would be added advantage to my career. So I registered for MA sociology which kept me busy for two full years, stimulating my brain, with a lot of reading for my assignments and exam. I still recall David sitting and waiting outside the examination hall while I was writing my sociology exams.
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I kept moving searching for meaningful work which would also meet our basic needs of life; and kept attending training, workshops, seminars to update myself with the current issues that needs to be addressed. So I worked for a health  organization for over 13 years starting small and moved into training that gave me opportunities to travel and work with a clinical psychologist for over 5 -7 years. By then my daughter arrived and we bought a flat and I still kept exploring and bringing changes wanting to do more and then again move to another small organization that worked with Child Rights, HIV and later on Domestic violence. 

I worked here for the next 7 years learning and growing and then my son with special needs and my life changed completely leading me to understand and explore the world of children with special needs. At that point of time, I felt like updating myself academically and pursue a degree in special education. I am happy I did not do as that would a robbed so much of my time, depriving me of spending time with my kids.


On the other hand, I also encouraged David to pursue his own goals, enabling him to complete his graduation. I found him very much inclined towards religion –  so motivated him to learn  the art of meditation,  read the bible, understand and share learning’s  in small prayer groups, translate local language devotional songs in Hindi for praise and worship to be sung for the prayer services. In his own office he attempted to write his internal exams to qualify for a better position with good perks and thus enhance his net worth as a government employee. Thus we helped each other pursue our individual goals and still continue to do so as we keep moving on in this journey with gratitude.

I still continued to progress academically and completed another two year degree in psychology after the demise of my son and moved into the area of psychological counseling and today I work as a counselor at the university. I believe that it’s very important to pursue your own goals and marriage should never stop one from ongoing learning. I learnt that you are never old to start a new goal.


Be blessed & Be happy J

12 comments:

  1. What a wonderful post on dedication to not only your own goals but those of David's too - and of your dedication to furthering your knowledge of special needs children Genevive.

    Thank you for this - it is most inspiring and I love your quotes too ... and your ending ' you are never too old to start a new goal'.

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    1. Thanks Susan for your affirmation, its always nice to hear from you :) your comments lift me up and I am grateful to God for persons like you who make the world brighter.. hope to stay in touch !!

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  2. Beautiful and sensitive dear Angela.

    http://www.sunilavigauthor.blogspot.com.au/2016/04/dadheechi-or-dadhyanga-for-alphabet-d.html

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    1. Hi Sunila, its nice t reconnect with you; remembered your lovely posts last challenge on Yoga. thanks for being here:)

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  3. You seem to have done a lot in life and great to know all the support you receive from your husband...Good luck to both of you to set and achieve newer goals

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    1. Thanks dear, its been a long journey:) and it always fills me with gratitude for all the experiences that has helped me reach where I am today..

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  4. You seem to have done a lot in life and great to know all the support you receive from your husband...Good luck to both of you to set and achieve newer goals

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  5. You are truly inspiring, Genevive. Loved the way you have enhanced your knowledge and skills over the years and helped David achieve his goals too. Way to go!! :)

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    1. Thanks Shilpa :) so very kind of you !! I believe we are all in the process of "BECOMING"

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  6. How right your are! Too often we lose our identity in a marriage and land up resenting our spouse.

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    1. thats a big blessing not to loose our identity in marriage... we give away our power and then blame everything around us.. .

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  7. You are so right! This is what I always say to my Dad, that marriage shouldn't mean one person's sacrifice of her ambitions and goals. Rather, it should be a mutual nurturing of both of them individually. It is not one soul in two bodies, but 2 very different souls, both having their own dreams and life paths.
    - Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com

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