“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed” Maya Angelou
|Yarada Village Beach, Vizag|
This month there were hard realities in life too, death of my 3rd brother Vincent Dass who died attending the Sunday service in a church, leaving his wife and a young daughter. The news came as a shock to me and our family, no words can be comforting for a family that has lost a member; it opened my eyes to see death part of life and not opposite of life…. On the same day there was a suicide by a 23 year old student who was a topper; and first generation learner, there was lot of confusion and turmoil in the campus, and being in the service area we had to keep our centre open despite all the chaos around the university campus.
The media was looking for a story and wanted to know whether he was depressed; whether he visited our centre etc... the new students were shocked to see their class mate hanging from the ceiling in the hostel toilet. A few of them who saw could not deal with their own emotions, were disturbed and came to the centre with fear and anxiety. I had to be watchful and sensitive to be available for the ones who came in, there were bandhs, laticharge, strike and police and media all around the campus. It is very disturbing to work in this environment and as counselors we are available to ensure that the students take help when they are depressed and feel lonely in a huge campus.
|with Mahesh on his birthday|
I visited my brother’s house to meet my niece and my sister in law who were grieving; I felt that the best time to condole is when everyone leaves after all the formalities, and two of them are left alone to deal with the loss. I could spend little time getting into the details of their experiences and just be there for a while doing nothing, just providing assurance and a little support.
This month is also my son Emmanuel’s birthday, and it’s a usual routine that we visit his graveyard. Its 7 years that he no more with us and we do miss him a lot as he was so very vibrant, energetic and charming. We offered mass at the church, picked up some snacks and some gifts for the kids. A day before is the birthday of Mahesh- I have written about him in my earlier post, here’s the link:
Last year I was down with dengue and could not really go out much, so I missed Mahesh’s birthday. This year I am in good health and happy to move around, so I along with David visited Mahesh to wish him for his birthday as Dorothy my daughter had exams.
This month is also my birthday and I complete 56 years of my life here on this earth J and wow what a wonderful feeling, looking back and counting all the years, the experiences of my life both lovely ones and negative ones together strengthened and empowered me. My experiences have taught me to look at my life with close quarters and let go of what is not important, bid goodbye to some relationships that was hindering my progress, sapping my energy levels leaving me depleted.
|with my classmates at College|
I have journeyed with faith, hope and gratitude, opening myself to newer experiences of life, new relationships along the way, reconnecting with my old classmates & friends, finding newer ways to stay motivated, and constantly enabling myself to chose what I want to do and aligning myself to activities that bring in meaning and fulfillment.
“Being grateful does not mean that everything is necessarily good. It just means that you can accept.” Roy T Bennett.
We did have some celebrations, a first birthday of Loraine, a cute little child from our church community, an engagement of David’s relative, and then of course gifts for my birthday in advance- a travel suitcase from my sister in law which is very handy, useful and much needed as I travel has increased in the last few years . This was special and I chose the colour that I wanted. There were 2 lovely Salwar sets from a close friend, and a pretty saree from David along with a few more casual wears for my office.
|Appreciate the thought, time and Genorosity|
|Gifts for my birthday:)|
David was busy with organizing prayer service for Christmas celebrations, and also managing the clinic, while my daughter was busy in the choir singing. This time she was happy to sing the carols in the college with her classmates, and also visit an orphanage to share whatever was collected from her college.
|Merry Christmas at St Cecilia's Church|
|Merry Christmas at Home with friends:)|
This month too I have posted trees to show love, spreading green virtually. Here’s my link:
This month my post is delayed due to a short break I took for myself; but I was particular that at least I post this today, being the last day of 2017 and few more hours as I welcome 2018 with a smile and a heart full of gratitude J
Thanks to Vidya https://vidyasury.com/2017/12/
grateful-by-default-gratitude. html for this gratitude circle.
I had an amazing journey- I appreciate Vidya for her energetic and motivating posts that kept me going too J
Hope you had a great December,
Wishing you and your family members a very happy Christmas and a bright New Year 2018!!
Be Happy & Be a Blessing !!