April 15, 2014

Never Speak Without Listening!



To listen is to love, to love is to understand.  We find all around everybody wants to speak and there are very few who are ready to listen.  No wonder today we have dearth of counselors. Institutions are looking for people who can listen non judgmentally with unconditional love. 

They are willing to hire people for listening, because listening does a lot of wonders – when we listen with love, a lot of issues get resolved.  I am happy to work as a counselor and I have trained myself to listen with love – and I have grown so much because of listening.  I love what Carl Rogers, a psychologist who focused on person centered counseling, and client centred therapy says about listening as follows:

“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me." Carl Rogers

"Man's inability to communicate is a result of his failure to listen effectively."  Carl Rogers


Thank you for listening !

20 comments:

  1. Very true.. I did that grave mistake today and ended up getting trolled!

    ~S(t)ri
    Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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    1. Hope its sorted today, we all make such mistakes, it takes time to learn, nice to hear from you.

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  2. Listening is very important. It's something I need to work on.

    Liz A. from Laws of Gravity

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    1. Glad to hear... it is worth the effort, we will never regret, and so much of learning happens when we truly listen ...

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  3. Its so easy to speak but so difficult to pause n listen!

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    1. True ! I remember the days when I used to prepare my mind to answer, even before the person completes the sentence, we are so much conditioned by our own experiences, we end up listening to what we want to listen and not what the other is saying..

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  4. True! Listening is very important else we may end up making a fool of ourselves and might not find anyone willing to listen to us :)
    N for Nauseated-Random Thoughts Naba

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    1. Rightly said, we must train ourselves to listen and we understand better, our perceptions change and accordingly it affects that we behave .. thanks ..

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  5. Very true... Listening with attention is also a trait to be inculcated...Reactions before listening might result into something that one would repent...

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    1. Thanks for your comments... attentive listening is very much part of communication, our relationships improve, when we truly listen to understand, rather than to react..

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  6. Most of the people listen half understand quarter and speak double. Good reminder Genevive and Good lck fr A to Z

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    1. had a hearty laugh when i read your comment ! most of the issues are only because of poor listening skills ...

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  7. lovely post Angela and so true, listening with love can solve everything. Good to know that you are doing this with your counselling :)

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    1. Thanks sunila, nice to hear from you... listening is quite demanding and its quite challenging to listen with love and open mind, without any prejudice or any beliefs that can come in our way in listening.

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  8. Listening helps a lot of them. There is a light feeling when we know we are being heard and someone understands us. My friends always used to say talking to me helps, even if I don't know the solutions, I do listen to them and its a big thing! I in later years got to know what it is like being heard when you go through something disturbing! I am glad they heard me back when I needed to be heard! :)

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    1. I am so happy to hear this comment from you.. some people are very good at listening. I was always proud of Corinne my friend, who is very good listener, you are a blessing for your friends.. continue listening, probably its a skill you are blessed with, use it more and you will find the how much you have grown only listening..

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  9. Lending a sympathetic ear to someone's problems is really a noble job....a thoughtful post

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    1. Thank you dear, you are absolutely right.. .

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  10. I think one of the compliments I love the most is when someone says "You are such a good listener, I can tell you anything!" Warms my heart

    Carol @ Battered Hope

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  11. Each person has 2 ears and one mouth, so (s)he must listen twice as much as (s)he speaks!

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