September 4, 2013

SEVEN YEARS JOURNEY

I am taking part in the Write Tribe Festival of Words  
This is my fourth Post 

Today I recall a seven year journey  of Emanuel’ (my son’s) life.  Even though the journey lasted only for 7 years - there is so much I have experienced and learnt from him.  Out of the many things, I picked up seven beautiful qualities that inspired me and continues to inspire me.

1.      Laughter – the most fascinating aspect of Emmanuel was his smile, he smiled with his eyes, and I loved watching him smile, though he was a special child, he was a charming and naughty. I remember the way he used to pull me from behind and run to hide, and I would pretend as though I have not seen him, and when I catch him in his mischief, he would laugh loudly.


2.      Thankfulness – is another aspect that made me fond of him, he was not able to articulate even till the age of 5.  Most of the time he spoke in actions. He was a quiet child, and we had to help him with everything. I recall the days, when I use to bathe him and carry him to wipe and change his clothes, he would be so excited that he would embrace me tight and kiss me on my cheeks. And whenever I brought a chocolate or a toy he would just hug me tight and express his thanks.


3.      Happiness –I always saw Emmanuel happy, never worried me or anybody else in the family.  It used to be so very contagious, that I would just imagine his presence, and feel refreshed. It was very rare to see tears in his eyes, and only on few occasions he really cried hard.  Once when he fell from the cot while sleeping, another time at the clinic when I used to take him for immunization. 

Other times, I could see him upset when his sister snatched his toy aeroplane, and when my husband shouted for having thrown his cell phone in the water.  He took joy in small things, loved to play in the water, enjoyed cycling, in fact loved to go around in his cycle



4.      Warmth & Friendly –Emmanuel was very warm and extremely friendly, to anyone who came home, and sometimes even strangers at public places. Befriending was so natural to him; it came effortlessly, and felt very much at home.

Living in a flat and balancing home & career, it has not been easy to move around in the neighborhood.  Emmanuel had no problem to walk into any house, sometimes I would feel uncomfortable to enter into neighboring house, but Emmanuel had no problem to go and rest, use their toilet and watch TV. The friendliness and warmth is something very cute that I can never forget in my life.



5.      Kindness– Emmanuel was very kind, and he expressed his kindness in many ways.  Whenever someone came home he would run open the door with a big smile on his face, and move the chair ushering them to sit.  He would even offer a glass of water.  He would share his cycle with his cousin and watch them play.  Sometimes I found children snatching from him, and he would still stand and smile and I used to get angry with them.

I recall when I took him to my daughter’s school for a fete, he loved ice cream, being prone for respiratory issues, I used to get scared to buy him one, but I did not want to deprive my daughter, because of Emmanuel, so would buy for both of them, and for Emmanuel I would melt it and give him so that he does not feel deprived. He would take a spoon and share it with his sister and whoever was next to him.




6.      Cheerfulness – Emmanuel was always cheerful, even when he is sick, he will bring smile to his face. So many times he will have fever and cough, but he will never cease to smile. Even at the clinic meeting the doctor, he will smile and shake hands with the doctor.  The doctor would give him a chocolate, and he will bring it and give it to his sister.

7.      Playful – Emmanuel loved to play, he would pull us when we are down and ask us to join him in playing with him. He had the habit of playing with teddy bear, soft toys; he will play with his sister’s bag, cell phone; He will find small towels, kerchiefs and put it in the water, make it wet and pretend it to be drying.

He will wear his father’s shoes and go around the house; He would also take his sister’s frock and wear; He would empty the powder box on his face and will come and stand in front of me, looking at his mischievous smile; I would carry him and hug him.

It’s almost will be 2 and half  years that he is  no more, but he continues to brighten my day, I feel happy to have had him for seven years and the impact he created will last a life time.
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24 comments:

  1. Dear Janet : I like your resilient nature, writing and posting realities of life with a sense of gratitude and meekly surrendering to the over-arching sovereignty of God Almighty. He knows every individual who goes through pain and emotional trauma. God has gifted you in expressing human feelings and emotion through articulate writing. My wish is may HE grant you and guide you in all your endeavors aptitude and vocation.with HIS abundant blessings.

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    1. Thank you brother, for your kind words, I am happy to hear from you, appreciate you for visiting my blog, and sharing your thoughts ! God bless you !

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  2. Reading about the qualities you've mentioned, I feel he was really a blessed child and you are blessed to be his mother. He looks really happy and cheerful in all the photographs. God bless !!

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    1. Thanks Diana, I feel happy to share about him and rightly stated, I am blessed because of him. Thanks for taking time, appreciate you !

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  3. I really can't imagine the pain that you had gone through Angela. Loss of a child is totally unimaginable. The post was really wonderful...your child was indeed blessed.

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    1. Thanks Jini for your kind words ! its definitely very painful to lose a child, I was shattered and I thought, that was the end of my life - I stood up with my daughter's help and ofcourse with loving people around me, I am still overcoming the loss and the void created by my son.

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  4. What a beautiful and warm post. By the time I read the ending I had tears in my eyes.

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    1. Thanks for your kind words, it means a lot to me ....

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  5. It takes courage to write this, to share with us snippets of the most treasured part of your life. Your post and the accompanying pics show how beautiful and joyous his soul was!! Warm hugs to you dear...this must have taken a lot of emotional strength to write. God bless you and your family!

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    1. Yes it did take some courage Aditi, also painful to talk about it.. each time I bring this up.. i feel better to have written this. thanks for your kindness and appreciate you for stopping by !

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  6. It takes courage to write this, to share with us snippets of the most treasured part of your life. Your post and the accompanying pics show how beautiful and joyous his soul was!! Warm hugs to you dear...this must have taken a lot of emotional strength to write. God bless you and your family!

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  7. Those are lovely memories to treasure. Fate is cruel sometimes that it takes away from us that which we most cherish.

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    1. Very true ! I cherish those memories, and I treasure it, I do have his laughter recorded on my cell too... ultimately I remain a guardian ....

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  8. Beautiful lessons that Emmanuel can teach grown-ups like us who complaint at the smallest problems. I admire your courage and love Emmanuel's smile as well as zest for life.
    Keep the faith

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    1. Thanks Vishal for the affirmation, appreciate your genorosity ...

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  9. He seems to be the most wonderful, affectionate human being! {{hugs}}

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    1. True Roshni ... I still miss and sometimes feel terrible about his loss. Thank you ..

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  10. Happy child!
    I have an elder sister who's a special child, and the lessons I learned from her all these years made me what I am today.
    Virtual Hugs to u <3

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    1. Hugs to you dear, it is so true, there is so much to learn from special children .. they are angels in disguise and their love is so pure.. happy to know about your sister ..

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  11. Its so wonderful to knw that ur lil one has left behind so many beautiful memories.
    I enjoyed reading about him.
    One of the things that u hv mentioned about immanuel made me imagine & it brought a smile to my face. Its about how he opened the door with a smile and when ur visitor's entered how he showed them the chair to sit. By seing his smiley pic I cud clearly imagine that situation. So so sweet. I missed meeting him.
    May the Lord grant you peace, joy & fill ur heart with His precious love. May the 3 of you b bound together with God's love. :)
    With love & well wishes from the 5 of us.
    Joyce Wyn & the 3 Mels

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    1. Thanks Joyce ! you are very right, you did miss him, when you came last time, he was gone by then. Even now sometimes I feel he is around, he is also very sharp, when he hears my scooter sound, he will come running near the window and give a big smile, now when i enter the compound i tend to look at the window hoping to see his smiling face ... Thanks for visiting my blog and appreciate you for praying for us as we do for you. Thanks again !

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  12. A very warm n beautiful post aunty.

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    1. Thanks carmel, nice to hear from you ! hope your little one is fine, my hugs to both..

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  13. A very warm n beautiful post aunty.

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