April blogging #A-Z 2018- M

This post is written for the April blogging #A-Z 2018. I have chosen the theme Books and Authors for this year.

M – Men are from Mars Women are from Venus

By John Gray

John Gray is an American relationship Counselor, and it is said that he began a nine year association with Maharishi Mahesh yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor.  Dr Gray is a certified family therapist, and a member of the American Counseling Association. This book is a popular one and sold millions of copies, and is dedicated to his wife Bonnie Gray

This book is a gift book for my wedding by one of the Priest Friend who was also a colleague, presented to me 18 years ago – it’s an interesting book wherein the author uses metaphor in clearly stating the differences between Men and Women belonging to different planets, Mars and Venus. The conflict that arises from the differences hinders the couple from experiencing a mutually loving relationship.  This book has 286 pages to read and has 13 chapters.

These books highlights on how men and women differ in all the areas, not only they think differently but also feel, perceive, react, respond, love and appreciate differently. This book also gives some practical techniques for solving problems that arises from differences.

The author discusses in great detail all the differences bringing insights in understanding how men’s and women’s values are inherently different and try to understand the two biggest mistakes we make in relating to the opposite sex: men mistakenly offer solutions and invalidate the feelings, while women offer unsolicited advice and direction. The books talks about how remembering the differences mistakes can be corrected and we can respond in ways that are productive.

This book also talks about how men’s abilities to solve problems without interference, and women like to talk about  their feelings  and the different ways they cope with stressJ what motivates a man and what motivates a women and how they commonly misunderstand each other due to their differences in the languages they communicate. The author further explains as to how men and women have different needs for intimacy, and common ways that unknowingly turns off the partner and how to avoid painful arguments and practical suggestions for supportive communication.

A few quotes from this book to motivate and inspire:

“When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom”

“Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished”

“A women under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood”

“Just as man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a women is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems”

“The best way to help a man grow is to let go of trying to change him in any way.”

I felt happy to go through this book once again briefly for the A-Z challenge and it continues to inspire as I read about some of his personal experiences in his life and the learning’s from his marriage... 

Thank you for reading my post, I would love to hear your thoughts J

Be Blessed & Be Happy!