I have chosen 26 tips for married life as my theme for the
A-Z challenge 2016.
Today’s word is G - Giving, Generosity& Gratitude
When I was thinking of this letter G... the three words came to my mind, which is so important in a committed relationship. A lot of giving in happens…. Especially for women this is common factor, so many expectations are placed by everyone surrounding the couple and for everything the women has to give in; even if it’s not your fault. Since I committed myself in this relationship I felt important to give it a try and make it work. In this process I compromised many times keeping in view of the larger goals in life, kids as my priority and also belief that everything is subject to change.
There were so many instances wherein I just had to accept and walk quietly because the decision was already taken, and it’s the wife who must adjust. So many times if you are in a joint family, you will be the last person to be informed about major decisions taken in the family. Since you are the daughter in law, the family feels it is their right to have a say in all the matters concerning even my life. (of course now things have changed and I have my say in every matter.) I am glad to have learnt from my mother to be always being generous and she always told me that being generous never makes us poor, but enriches us.
Being Generous in a marital relationship definitely helps,today me and David feel content because we chose to give in generously to the family, cutting down costs to live within our means, and also doing away with our own desires and dreams in order to accommodate the needs of the extended family members.
Today we are grateful for having accomplished in helping my brother in law and sister in law settle down with their marriages, and also ensure that they become financially independent, thus reducing our burden of dependency on us.
The most important word that has kept me going in my marital relationship was and is GRATITUDE J I chose to be grateful for the little things in life; and always looked at all those things I had and practised the art of being grateful. I made deliberate decision to thank my husband for the support he offered, even if it was very small, I made it a point to thank him and practised even with the other members in his family.
Slowly I found every one returning thanks to me for the serving them. Every day I began with gratitude and ended by day thinking of all the positive aspects, ignoring not so good experiences, focused only on gratitude. I continue to practice gratitude even now and I found that it is very contagious…. . not only influences your spouse, but even all those surrounding you too get into the habit of being thankful.
Be Happy !!