April 7, 2016

G - Giving, Generosity& Gratitude

I have chosen 26 tips for married life as my theme for the
A-Z challenge 2016.
 Today’s word is G - Giving, Generosity& Gratitude

When I was thinking of this letter G... the three words came to my mind, which is so important in a committed relationship. A lot of giving in happens…. Especially for women this is common factor, so many expectations are placed by everyone surrounding the couple and for everything the women has to give in; even if it’s not your fault. Since I committed myself in this relationship I felt important to give it a try and make it work. In this process I compromised many times keeping in view of the larger goals in life, kids as my priority and also belief that everything is subject to change.  

There were so many instances wherein I just had to accept and walk quietly because the decision was already taken, and it’s the wife who must adjust. So many times if you are in a joint family, you will be the last person to be informed about major decisions taken in the family. Since you are the daughter in law, the family feels it is their right to have a say in all the matters concerning even my life. (of course now things have changed and I have my say in every matter.) I am glad to have learnt from my mother to be always being generous and she always told me that being generous never makes us poor, but enriches us.

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Being Generous in a marital relationship definitely helps,today me and David feel content because we chose to give in generously to the family, cutting down costs to live within our means, and also doing away with our own desires and dreams in order to accommodate the needs of the extended family members.

Today we are grateful for having accomplished in helping my brother in law and sister in law settle down with their marriages, and also ensure that they become financially independent, thus reducing our burden of dependency on us.

The most important word that has kept me going in my marital relationship was and is GRATITUDE J I chose to be grateful for the little things in life; and always looked at all those things I had and practised the art of being grateful. I made deliberate decision to thank my husband for the support he offered, even if it was very small, I made it a point to thank him and practised even with the other members in his family.

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Slowly I found every one returning thanks to me for the serving them. Every day I began with gratitude and ended by day thinking of all the positive aspects, ignoring not so good experiences, focused only on gratitude. I continue to practice gratitude even now and I found that it is very contagious…. . not only influences your spouse, but even all those surrounding you too get into the habit of  being thankful.

“The greatest thing in life is finding that one other person who knows all of your flaws, but still thinks that you’re an amazing person”

Be Happy !!

13 comments:

  1. Angela, your post was so comforting, like a mother's blessing for her child! I really appreciate your sharing of such wonderful thoughts. I am so overcome by certain situations in my life that I find it difficult to be grateful or even gracious to those who I feel don't deserve to see my better side. Your post revokes my thinking. I'll be back for more positive vibes from you :)
    @KalaRavi16 from
    Relax-N-Rave

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    1. OMG :) thanks kala for the lovely compliment, feeling very good at the end of the day to see your comment, am glad my post triggered some thoughts, its a great feeling to connect with you.. hope to stay in touch !

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  2. Yes, being grateful for small things in life and in a relationship is extremely important. And that's the key to a successful relationship.
    Thanks for sharing this one!

    Cheers
    Geets

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    1. Thanks dear for resonating the same feelings on being grateful for small little things.. appreciate you for being here :)

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  3. Giving and being generous in a relationship is so important, for it is in the giving that we receive. Love the quote in the end. :)

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    1. Wow shilpa that second line, in your comment, reminded me of St Francis of Assisi a popular saint in the catholic church who has written a lovely prayer called Make me a channel of your peace... which is sung in different style and I loved singing this song from my early days...

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  4. The more I am reading these posts the more I am realizing that a sucessfulmrelationship is made after so many key ingredients that we all put in our's but do not realize.

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    1. so very true Shesha, life is all about what we give is what we get:) so often we forget our contributions to the problems and blame our partner for our misery:)

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  5. Thank you always for your inspiring and gentle posts Genevive - they are like balm to my soul. We can forget to be grateful for what we have. We are generous spirits by nature which often get overloaded by other stuff ... but we lear as we go along. I loved this post thank you so much dear Genevive :) Have a lovely weekend!

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    1. Hi Susan :) thanks for the lovely compliment, makes me happy and am grateful to you for being so consistent in affirming, it matters a lot and I want to appreciate you for that, don't worry about the typo mistakes, sometimes it happens to me too :) have a great weekend !

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  6. ...but we learn as we go along .. sorry for my typo in my comment

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  7. You are right about gratitude. So often we are caught up in situations especially in joint families that we are too busy grumbling to remember to be grateful

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    1. hahaha :) very well said, thanks for reinforcing what I have written.. have a blessed Sunday!!

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