Every Relationships is Sacred

Relationships are, an important reality in life, we are all connected to each other, I believe there is a purpose in all the relationships that we share, we are all born with a reason, and we have a very unique and significant role in this world, we are here to discover and find out what each of us are meant to be doing during our life time here on earth.

In order to discover who we are, and what we are meant to be doing, we are called to live in a community, despite differences in color, caste, religion, gender etc. I am happy in my life, for encountering so many people, who have in many ways helped me find my self to some extent, and I still continue my journey in understanding myself.

Some of the things that have helped me in this process have been:

• I have learnt to appreciate my life – that is to look at life with gratitude and believe that this will lead to the right place where I am meant to be.

• I believe I am special, and every person who lives on this earth is special, my job is to explore and discover my specialness.

• While discovering myself, I am also challenged to resolve issues with persons who are very different from me, while I reflect on what I have learnt because of my association with him/her I can see how that person has helped me grow, and why I was meant to know him/her.

·        This way we will know that every relationship we share in our life is SACRED.

Have a nice day!

A note of appreciation

Today I want to appreciate a lot of persons in my life, truly they are God's gift to me, and some of their meetings and interactions have been a spiritual experience. For in the past few months, I have been blessed so much.  There was always enough of everything at home.

I never ran short of fruits and snacks as there was someone or the other visiting us, there was enough money to sustain ourselves and for every expenditure incurred, there were friends who came in regularly and helped us in sorting paper work for David, like extension of his leave, information in the office, coordinating with the health scheme, recharging his cell, praying with him, taking him for his visits and regular check ups to hospital and physiotherapy centre, which in turn gave me space to do my work, and also take some sessions in colleges.

Life is full of challenges, and every challenge comes to awaken in us that capacity which otherwise is not used, when I look at myself, and the way I had handled everything in the last 3 months have been amazing.

I would not have been able to handle without the support of family and friends. The world is filled with a lot of goodness and persons who are kind and loving, and I am blessed to encounter them and be a part of their lives. Today I want to appreciate,  acknowledge the presence of these wonderful persons who have touched my life in a new way.

Thanks to all my family members, friends & our colleagues for enabling us to go through this difficult phase. I am overwhelmed with their generosity, and filled with gratitude.

Have a Grateful Day !

This too shall pass ….

Yesterday was All Souls' Day.  I visited the graves of my family members who have died, my mother, my father, my sister and my grand parents. It's an important day for us in the family, where all of us go together to the cemetery. This time I went alone as it was difficult for all of us to go together.

While visiting the graves, I recalled an event exactly  a month ago. A little girl baby was born in our family, she was so beautiful, looked like an angel, but her life on earth was so short, that before I could hold her in my arms and kiss her, she left the earth. It was as if a sweet angel that came for a brief visit to the earth, and had to leave back to where it belonged.

This little girl was born in an emergency as its heart beat dropped and the doctors tried their best to save the child.   When I heard about the baby, I rushed to the hospital, and found the baby on the ventilator, a small little girl appeared as though sleeping peacefully, after which I met Mary, my sister in law, in the post operative ward. The moment she saw me, she broke down, I had no words to communicate, the grief was too much to bear. After a while the nurse brought a small little baby wrapped in a pink towel, and gave her to Mary to hold for some time. 

I can never forget that moment of grief - of a women who carried this same child for nine months, in her womb, and at the end of the term, had to hold a lifeless body of a child in her hands. She wept and wept inconsolably, I did not know what to do, I have never encountered a situation like this, I felt totally lost, and had no words to console. I was too shocked and felt extremely pained, all I could do was to silently stand by and hold her hands.

I am still in the process of coming out of this experience which was too deep. For the first time in my life, I carried a dead baby in my arms to bury – it was too much for me to take, I cried silently and handed over the baby to her father, who buried her.

The time stood still, death is an important reality, I have the experience of my sister who died young, my parents who died, it did affect me to some extent, but this experience of death was too sudden, unexpected that left me numb and shocked.

I have no words to console the mother of the child, who is in grief, it’s painful to see and difficult to handle – I feel helpless and in pain too.  But deep in my heart I believe that God knows what is best, and this too shall pass ……. This little angel who departed, had given me opportunity to look at life at close quarters, and has challenged me with this question - if I were to leave the earth, what would I do now?  I am thinking and relooking at my life? Hopefully answering it in my heart, and making those changes which will improve the quality of my life.

Be a blessing !