August 28, 2009

My Son My Teacher


I have come to realize , that struggle is extremely important for our growth, for I have found in my life, each time, I faced a struggle, I emerged victorious, and my faith in God, faith in my self and faith in my relationships strengthened.

Raising Emmanuel and Dorothy has been quite a tough job, and I still continuously keep learning, as they challenge me to look at my own perceptions, mental frame work of what I believe about beauty, achievement and success. It’s been tough to strike a balance between my two children, my daughter who is very articulate and knows what she wants, so it is clear for me, on the other side, my son who is very different, I need to understand, and look out of other signs & gestures to communicate with him.

I have begun to understand somewhere deep within, I have still not accepted Emmanuel as he is, for it still seems very strange and hurtful to think that I have borne a down syndrome child, even though I know in my mind, that the past cannot be undone, and what is important is the now.

Its an unconscious pattern, and when I am aware of this, I make deliberate attempts to make a choice to love and accept Emmanuel as he is, without trying to change him. Emmanuel on the other hand is happy and full of life, unaware of how others treat him, and he is so affectionate, and expresses love and warmth in his own way that I become very overwhelmed and ashamed of my own attitude.
Now when I look at my son, I am thankful to God for giving him to me as a gift, and reaffirm my belief that his life has a purpose too, and he is part of Gods plan in my life.Today I no longer hurry with my son, as he is very slow, and require a lot of time, and I am sure, he will learn at his pace. This has made me to appreciate and affirm him everyday, so that he will be empowered to manage himself.

I believe I can do this, only when I feel at home with myself, accept my kids just the way they are, and begin empowering them from where are they at, rather than placing false expectations on how they should look, talk, walk or behave.

When I stand by what I believe, that every child is unique and precious, and God has a specific plan for them too, it reduces a lot of unnecessary and unwanted stress, there is no need to live up to people’s expectation, to compare their children with mine.

I have also begun to understand that the problem is not with the child, it lies in us as to how we interpret what is beautiful, what is perfect and what is normal, the child is happy, loving, pure and innocent.

I am thankful to my son for challenging me to redefine myself, my beliefs and my attitudes in life, and I am willing to learn in order to live a life full of meaning and purpose.

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Albert Einstein




August 19, 2009

LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST

I received this forward from Genny, one of my friend and it was worth reading, even though we know that we are special and unique persons, very often we need reminders to tell us that we have only one life to live and one life to give, and so much to share, today I want to be happy just being me and in my own place. I thank God and thank my friends for helping me reach where I am today.

i
Posted by Picasa

August 18, 2009

You are your own best friend!

I came across an article by Cherri Walston, an M.S. is a certified Professional Coach, trainer and speaker and I am inspired by what she says, here is an extract from it, there is Happiness in Being YOU. We don’t really need something outside of us to make us feel good.

There Is Joy In Being Your Own Best Friend. A true friend is someone who accepts you as you are, feels those fears and anxieties with you, and sees your limitations. A true friend will celebrate you, cry with you, and reason with you for your own good. I can truly say that I have a small, yet valuable set of sister friends who have helped me to be the best I can be. However, I am learning to be my own best friend too.

When I feel like I'm not where I need to be, I smile and remember where I came from. When I fear stepping out of my comfort zone, I feel the fear and say, "go for it girl". And when I am confronted with my limitations, I tell myself to do what I can. A way will be made because God never fails. I find pure joy in laughing at my quirkiness, the silly things I say and do. When you become comfortable with yourself, you'll realize you don't need a crowd to feel good.

Just be YOU!

August 4, 2009

IT I S SAFE TO LOOK WITHIN

How often do we start worrying about what others think of us? How many times we do things, agree to commit in order to make other’s happy, or even live up to their expectations, by agreeing to conform to the standard set by others, we do injustice to ourselves, by not being ourselves, and in the process we become unreasonable to our own selves, which leads us to unhappiness, and creates situations in which we struggle, when stop for a moment, and anyalse the cause of our worries, we will begin to understand how our mind works, what are the thoughts and behaviours that create such beliefs.

The Good News is that we can change our behaviour by changing our thoughts, which in turn will eliminate the beliefs that causes them.

Although this problem can be caused by different beliefs in different people, there is one specific belief that anyone with this problem almost certainly has: "What makes me good enough is having people think well of me."

Our beliefs about ourselves are usually formed very early in our lives first five years of life, most of us already have this belief when we leave our homes and go out into the world of teachers, meet other children.

When I first identified this belief in me, of course it took a lot of time in my life and thanks to my friends, and challenging books that provoked me to look within, I am thankful to so many authors – Louise L. hay is one such author in her book, “You Can Heal Your Life” enables you to directly work on your thought patterns, and has even evolved beautiful and empowering mind conditioners to renew our minds, and change our thought patterns which in turns impacts our belief system.

By repeating the mind conditioners and writing them in a book, and constantly reinforcing them helps us to change our mind sets and beliefs, as thoughts are very powerful for they create situations accordingly, I had started using these mind conditioners mentally in my mind, I keep repeating it, and when I find time, I even start writing these conditioners, and there is a lot of change in me, I have learnt to accept myself, be comfortable with myself, and to a large extent peaceful within, because I trust the process of life in me, and I am safe, healthy and happy.

Today I continue to search for disempowering beliefs, and change it to empower me – and by doing so, I am happy and live my life with gratitude.

Recent Comments

Recent Comments Widget